When discussing relationships, the conversations usually start with examining feelings and emotions or physical attractions.  They get to “the heart of the matter” or they get to the “down and dirty” physical details or the spiritual connection of “soulmates”.

Today, I want you to notice how your thoughts influence and affect the relationships you are in.  Let’s look at our mental energy in the matter of relationships.

Mercury is associated primarily with Gemini, which is air sign.  Air is associated with the mind.  There’s a lot of quick mental activity going on with Mercury, among other things.  Mercury also tends to accelerate matters in all ways.

Venus, often associated with relationships and love, is actually also a mental energy.  It is associated with Libra, which is another air element sign focused on fairness, justice, balance and equality.  It’s a very mentally objective energy.

Therefore, if Venus and Mercury are both associated with mental energy, our relationships and interactions with others are strongly mental in nature.

After all, we cannot deny that there are certain factors that draw us to particular people to begin with. Let’s get scientific for a second. Yes, there is scientific evidence that there are physical and emotional attributes in regard to who we are attracted to and why. There is definitely emotional need and physical and/or sexual attraction in play.

But why do we choose who we choose? No matter how physically or emotionally drawn to certain people we may be, we must give even a brief moment’s thought to these biologically and emotionally-driven selections to make a choice.

There have been many people who choose partners based on money or sex rather than emotional connection. There have been many people who have chosen the emotional connection or their emotional needs over their practical needs. Whatever drives the choice, there is still a choice to be made, and these choices are made through our minds. Our relationship choices are ultimately mental. We choose what we THINK is best for us, even if it ends up not being the case. We choose what we think is best for us based on our feelings. We choose what we think is best based on our physical actions. We choose what we think is best based upon our beliefs.

How many people do you know who have married to spite someone who doesn’t agree with their choice of partner or who has married someone because someone else said that it’s the person they should marry, whether or not they were actually in love with the person they were marrying or not?  How about people who have married to prevent a child being born out of wedlock after a night of acting upon purely sexual attraction because it’s “the right thing to do”?  And how many people have affairs because they believe they chose the wrong partner and they are looking for something their relationship doesn’t give them simply because they are too afraid to communicate clearly and ask their partner for what they need?  Even in non-romantic relationships, how many people stay in abusive relationships or unhealthy partnerships because they don’t want others to think of them as a failure or “a loser” or because they want to save face for their families?

I don’t bring these scenarios forth out of judgment – I use these scenarios as examples of how our relationships are often based on choices that are made out of what we think is best, even if those thoughts are not always fully in alignment with how we really feel or what we really want to do.

The reason I bring up these points is because they are instrumental in what is happening right now.  Both of these influences affect our thinking – they affect our minds.  The power of our thoughts drives our lives, and what we are thinking right now is creating our realities more quickly than most of us may ever imagine.

The Sun is still in Libra, focused on one-on-one relationships and partnerships.  However, with Venus and Mercury both now moving through Scorpio, there is a great deal of mental energy going into choices (or decisions) about relationships.  And Scorpio energy tends to be ‘all-or-nothing’.  Scorpio is also a water sign, meaning it is a strong emotional energy.  Our emotions may be driving us to extreme positions and choices as we consider relationship matters in our lives.

When I say extreme, I mean choices that have been a long time coming. Things are beginning to clarify about our relationships or elements of them. For some of us, it may be recognition of why we haven’t wanted a relationship. For others, it may be recognition of readiness for a relationship, and what needs to be done in our lives to prepare for one. Some of us may be taking the steps to bring a relationship into our lives, while others of us may be realizing that it is time to bring some relationships to an end.

The thing is that with Scorpio’s influence, many people interpret “choice” as “decision”.  They perceive it as an all-or-nothing kind of thing.  To decide or make a decision literally means to cut off or kill off any other options.  Think of the words homicide, suicide, genocide, incision, circumcision…they all have to do with cutting or killing off other options.

However, to choose means to be aware of all of the other options, to weigh them through your own personal values and beliefs, and to actually select one (or more) of the options presented.

I remind and encourage you to use your minds in your relationship choices over the next week or so while the Sun remains in Libra.  And when I say that, I don’t mean ignore the emotional and physical energies of your relationships and interactions with others – I mean use your mind to distinguish them and discern which of your relationships really bring fulfillment and joy to your life.  In some cases, you may find there are some decisions to be made, and that’s okay, too.

Thanks for reading and sharing. Until next week…

~ Light, Love and Blessings,

Grace