The Moon goes full in Libra early tomorrow morning (April 6th) at 12:19a PDT. As a Full Moon in Libra, it shines with the light being reflected back to us by our one-on-one relationships.
In other words, our relationships with others are letting us know exactly who we are choosing to be for ourselves in our lives. The quality and experience of our relationships directly mirror our own self-perception.
I can relate to this so much right now! I am in a situation where a certain someone and I are seriously mirroring each other with our behaviors and how we are managing (or rather, not managing) our feelings for each other. We each are waiting for the other to make the next move..and waiting….and waiting…and we are driving each other crazy as result!
We drive each other crazy because we are seeing ourselves in each other. And in seeing ourselves, we realize that we are both behaving the exact same way and blocking each other and our progress together as result! It’s perfect in a strange sort of way, because it’s helping me learn how I often don’t go after what I want, and how I make so many excuses (usually regarding the other person’s circumstances) about why I shouldn’t ask or approach them to see if what I want to create with them is even possible.
Each of us is 100% responsible for who we choose to be in our relationships and in our lives every moment of every day. We choose how we will act, what we will say (or not say), what we want the relationship to be (or not be), and how we will respond or react to the other person’s words and actions. Almost everything in our individual way of being is an individual choice that we alone are responsible for.
Now some of you may say, “But relationships take two people, and not everything in a relationship is the responsibility of one person”…and you would be correct to a point. Yet, partnerships and relationships of all kinds are made up of two or more individuals coming together, and within those relationships, all each of us can do as individuals is be 100% responsible for our individual choices. We have no control over the other person’s behavior, no matter how much we may like to think that we do. And no other person has control over us, no matter how much we may like to believe that they do. We only have control over how we individually choose to respond to others.
That said, we each have choice, therefore we each have power within our relationships. Often, we have more power than we think. Yet many of us give up our power to let others or societal values and directives have power over us, or we may seek and find others who give up their power to let us have power over them.
We may find ourselves saying that we must be in a relationship or partnership, or that we can’t “give up” on one, or that we must stay in one, or that we can’t leave one because we are trapped have “no other option”. Or maybe we can’t let go of someone we should have let go of a long time ago…or even that we keep trying to be seen by someone who really doesn’t want to have anything to do with us. We may even believe that we have a lesson to teach someone or convince ourselves that someone else is meant to teach us something or take the lead in our lives.
But the hard reality is…each of us is the sole leader of our own lives. We always have a choice. There are always options available to us.
The thing is, we rarely want to consider those options because for us to choose differently means we would have to try something new or outside our comfort zone. And the bigger (and often uglier) truth in this is that we would have to look at ourselves differently. We would have to change who we think we are to become who we truly are. We would evolve and grow and possibly mature into our True selves, owning up to who we are for ourselves and for others…and for many of us, that can be a frightening prospect if we’ve resisted taking ownership for our lives up to now.
Back to the experience I am having right now with that other person – I don’t like what I’m seeing about myself in our mirroring experience. It’s having me take a hard look at how immature I can still be in relationships, and how my own self-esteem and self-confidence still need some self-boosting.
And I’m asking myself why I still choose to behave this way after all I’ve learned about myself in my lifetime. What is in my past experiences or in my beliefs about myself or others that has me so afraid to choose then take bold and direct action (or make bold and direct communication) to ask for or claim what I want for myself and my life? How many opportunities have I missed out on waiting for the other person to ‘choose me’ or waiting on them to make the first move? And what do I need to work through to transform my beliefs and feelings about myself to start making empowered choices for myself and my life?
In this Full Moon in Libra period, it is a opportunity for all of us to see what our relationships and partnerships tell us about ourselves and more importantly, how we feel about ourselves. A few questions to ask in this next day or two:
- What are my relationships and partnerships telling me about me? What am I learning about myself when I don’t hold the other person responsible for this relationship?
- Am I happy and fulfilled in my relationships and partnerships? If I’m not, why not? Why am I choosing to be unhappy and unfulfilled, and what do I think or believe about myself that has me choose this for myself?
- Do I really love myself in this relationships/partnership, or is this relationship a testament to how much I don’t or won’t love myself or allow myself to be loved?
When is all comes down to it, it’s all about Love. Our relationships and partnerships really shine light on just how much we do or don’t genuinely Love ourselves. And what many of us tend to forget is that if we don’t love ourselves, how can we truly love someone else or receive love from or give love to someone else?
If you are in a challenging relationship or partnership, ask yourself if part of the challenge is that you are giving away your power or trying to take away someone else’s…or if you are trying to force your will onto someone else or allowing someone to force their will onto you.
And if you are not allowing yourself to give or receive contribution or Love, look at what you believe allowing that in your life would mean about you.
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Thanks for reading. Thanks for sharing.
~ Light, Love and Blessings,
Grace
